Decolonise Me VII: The Systemic Barriers Against Black Male Vulnerability
In my ongoing exploration of the systemic blocks which preclude black men from speaking up, or out, about their experiences. This blog explores this further.
Narcissistic Cannibal: The Recovery Road from Emotional Abuse
Been thinking a lot about how we recover from abusive relationships. I therefore wanted to share something personal this month about how we recover from emotional abuse, and the shadow work required to return to wholeness.
Decolonise Me VI: The Cult of Goodness
One of the major defences against admitting our own complicity in systems of oppression is that we don’t want to be seen as bad. This month’s blog explores this cult of goodness, considering what underpins this need within us all.
Pollywanacraka: Tyre Nichols and Systemic White Supremacy
On the 7th of Jan 23, Tyre Nichols was murdered in the USA by five black policemen. This blog explores why White Supremacy still sits central to this tragedy.
Decolonise Me V: Becoming Woke to Racism
On the back of receiving a racist image, this months blog continues the drive to call out these kind of aggressions, and considers how trauma plays a role in racism.
Being Black X: Loving the Black Inner Child
The wounded inner child resides within most of us. This month we consider just how much power the inner child can have over our relationships if left unchecked, and how we can repair such a wound.
Narcissus and Echo: A mythical dance made reality
Exploring the dance between narcissism and its compatriot echoism, this blog reveals the roles these both take, personally, collectively, and internally also.
Clarkson/Markle: The Weaponising of Shame
This months blog explore the psychology behind the use of shame as a weapon to subjugate of the other in systems of supremacy in the wake of the Clarkson/Markle conflict from December 2022
Decolonise Me IV: From the Exotification to the Humanity of Black Masculinity
In a sequel to a previous blog about black men enduing life under the white male gaze, this month we look at its counterpart; the exotification of black men by white women.
Being a Black Father II: Daddies & Daughters
For the holidays, a different kind of blog. A more gentle, personal, exploration of black fatherhood, written not only by myself on this occasion but also by daughter (the image is hers as well).









