Yearly Archives: 2022

In a sequel to a previous blog about black men enduing life under the white male gaze, this month we look at its counterpart; the exotification of black men by white women.

For the holidays, a different kind of blog. A more gentle, personal, exploration of black fatherhood, written not only by myself on this occasion but also by daughter (the image is hers as well).

As the other we have all experienced being marginalised, being pushed to one side and marginalised. Yet, how does it feel to be ignored? To become invisible in our professional and personal relationships? This month’s blog explores these experiences within majority spaces.

With a black lead, the coming movie The Little Mermaid has led to an enormous racialised backlash, with many commenting on wokeness having gone too far. Yet, for me, being woke is a core part of coming into oneself, of growing and being seen as a minority. It’s key to being an Activist-Psychotherapist.

This month we look at the pain of the inner child through a black lens, and how this wound, when unresolved, leads to an absence of adult relationships.

Through Twitter, I picked up a challenge to write about what it is like to be part of the sexual fantasies of cishet white men, and its impact upon men of colour. This is an early exploration of this taboo topic.

This months blog begins a longer exploration of just how colonised we all are. Focusing in on the importance of clothing, how we dress, and who we dress for, this month looks at one of the more subtle areas of cultural and psychological colonisation.

We don’t talk enough about fatherhood. Whilst we often discuss what it is to be black, what it is to be oppressed, and the cost of the absent father, we rarely consider the positives in black fatherhood. This blog, this personal rendition from a black father, looks at this experience of black masculinity. It is my gift to the black fathers everywhere.

Within psychotherapy, we underestimate the power that socially constructed aspects of our identity have upon us. With their inherent power dynamics, the challenge to adapt, to fit in, can ultimately become a caged bondage of our own making, if we are not careful, where we seek out others who delight in taking on the keys to our cells on our behalf.

Given that this month marks 1 Year since the publication of #Mockingbird, i wanted to write something to mark the occasion; not necessarily something celebratory, but something which speaks of the journey from echo to authentic.