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Studies in Supremacy Part 1: Projective Identification and the Compliance of the Other

(Published the 1st September 2019)

We have all heard them. Know your place! Stay in your lane! These phrases are increasingly used be they on social media, on television, or in politics. Phrases that are designed to make the other conform to some projected position as designated by the subject. For example, the idea that I am a black academic regularly psychologically throws those unable to handle the fluid intersectional nature of identity, whereby I either have to deal with microaggressions against these identities, be it through competition, for example, where there is an attempt to shame myself in to submission. The fact that power plays a large part in the maintenance and deconstruction of the other as less than it own self-identified self, and more of an insubstantial echo for the subject, should not be underestimated. This though is not the only means that the supremacy of the subject manifests itself against the other.

As well as therefore being beaten into compliance, be it physically or psychologically, the other is also often shamed into compliance, or it is ostracised into compliance. All, or any, of these three means of manipulating the other act to force said other into a format which the subject feels it can then accept, and which it then gradually projects aspects of itself into the other to hold. Like a sculptor who chisels his marble into the format he chooses, these three forms of manipulation can be used over and over until the projected, objectified, stereotyped, othered, echo sits before it, ready to accept said projections.

It should be noted though that the beating of the other into submission could also occur through the rigidity of rules and regulations. Ideas that the other should assimilate into a cultural ideal, for example, hold obvious hints of the power of the subject, and its use against the other to bring it into the folds of compliance. The other in these environments is then legally enticed into the position of the echo, from where it is compliant, and from where there is no threat against the subject of change. It could be argued that the migrant movements into the UK at the end of colonialism is the perfect example of this need for supremacy over the cultural other.
In the past I have written about the ego’s need to have dominion over the other, with Lacan seeing this as the position from which the ego believed it established its own supremacy (Homer, 2007). This blog this month though explores how this superiority is maintained, and the detrimental impact upon the echo of its compliance within such an oppressive positioning. The first aspect to consider is the idea of projection. As Jung (von Franz, 1980) recognised, the other is the shadow. What is considered less though is how this projection of the shadow is maintained, or to join this with the ideas of Lacan, how the ego continues to dominate the echo so it will hold that which is deemed unsuitable within itself.

I could try to explain projective identification in my own words, but I think this excellent quote from Ogden does so when he explains that PI involves ‘the ever-present threat that if the infant were to fail to comply, he would become non-existent for the mother. This threat is the 'muscle' behind the demand for compliance: 'If you are not what I need you to be, you don't exist for me, ' or in other language, 'I can only see in you what I put there, and so if I don't see that in you, I see nothing.' In the therapeutic interaction, the therapist is made to feel the force of the fear of becoming non-existent for the patient if he were to cease to behave in compliance with the patient's projective identification’ (1979, p. 358). Expanding this into the realm of otherness, the idea here is the implied belief that for the echo to exist it needs to comply with the subconscious control of the subject. This script, this responsibility for the subject’s identity, is therefore the construct of the subject, and unconsciously signed by the other. This is the contract of duality alluded to in much of Hegel’s writings on the relational dyad between the master and the slave (Villet, 2011).

One means for the other to remove itself from the deadening embrace of compliance is by becoming the subject in its own way. This escape into the supremacy of narcissism therefore involves the creation of alternative echoes that will hold aspects of it’s own egoic persona no longer deemed as acceptable. This psychologically involves the other self-denigrating that which makes it unique; its colour, its gender, is sexuality, etc, the hiding, suppression, or ridiculing of these aspects beginning the internalisation of this supremacy of the subject. This is how it embraces its acceptance of the unconscious contact discussed earlier, its compliance now complete.

The most fearful aspect for the supremacist is that its power, its sense of control and dominion over the other is challenged most of all by the rising up of said other into some semblance of self-identity. It is this movement from the position of the echo, into an authentic standpoint as the other that will inevitably involve a shift from compliance towards authenticity and/or rebellion and the fight for justice.
Ultimately, the gradual creep of compliance can be tricky to spot. In co-dependent relationships, it could appear in the gradual giving up of aspects of self one used to hang on to; friends, hobbies, places that one liked to visit. It can come up in changes in behaviour, the clothes one wears, the words one uses in everyday speech. The drive to comply, as governed by the subject, can lead to a type of double consciousness that makes being authentically oneself within environments impossible, and where to be such is deemed unacceptable.
Inwardly though, compliance is one of the obstacles against fully engaging with one's sense of otherness. It is a barrier against creativity of self, against thinking about what one wants to do, who one wants to be, or where one wants to go. It is in particular though a defence against individuation and the quest for self-identity. Elongated compliance to the supremacy of the subject is ultimately an affront against the will of the Soul itself.


Homer, S. (2007). Jacques Lacan: Routledge critical thinkers (Kindle Edition). UK: Routledge.
Ogden, T. H. (1979). On Projective Identification. International Journal of Psycho-Analysis, 60, 357–373.
Villet, C. (2011). Hegel and Fanon on the Question of Mutual Recognition: A Comparative Analysis by. The Journal of Pan African Studies, 4(7), 39–51.
von Franz, M.-L. (1980). Projection and Re-Collection in Jungian Psychology. UK: Open Court Publications.

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What a Summer of Self-Care Means for The Other

(Published 10th July 2019)

At the time of writing this month’s blog, I am aware that a very many of my followers on Twitter, Facebook and through my website would see themselves as different, or the other, in some way or means. I have also watched an increasing number of people on twitter, people who often stand up for social justice, express their need to take some time off from social media in order to deal with the demands of standing up for not just oneself but for many, but also to deal with the vitriol and ire aimed at them by so many faceless individuals.

Being the other a tough. What I mean by this is that by truly being the other, and not being an echo for a subject, there has to be a huge shift in personal perspective in order for this to become established. It involves the (re)emergence of a sense of self-identified self which is separate to the subject. It also involves the echo risking the punishments of the subject should it refuse to be projectively identified with said shadow of the subject.

As I have written about before, there is a cost to being the echo; be it neurological, psychological, physical or spiritual. Holding the hated split off projections of a subject is difficult enough for psychotherapists. For this to happen on a group/collective level suggests that we, the other, all live encased in hate, like a bee in amber.

What this also says is that Identity, or more importantly the fixed ego identity of the subject, together with the ability to maintain said egoic structure, also contains within itself a sense of privilege. Within this aloofness of the subject is also the additional privilege that they might rest whilst the echo holds its othernesss at bay, being the shadow for said subject at all times. The reasoning being that to become said other is to risk stretching free of the amber, to risk being themselves, to risk freeing themselves of the hate aimed at them.

For the other, what this means is there is a daily struggle to survive within an environment not their own. Not only do they have to fine means of negotiating white spaces, men’s spaces, heteronormative environments, ableist spaces, or any other arena where they would be marked out as the outsider. Some of that survival means learning how to deal with the constant barrage of hate aimed at them for being different. This could be by finding adaptive ways of being, for example, be they by building up a double consciousness in order to survive the experiences of negotiating these spaces, or by becoming said echo to serve the subject, thereby entering into a contract whereby part payment is a sense of safety, however temporarily.

Regarding double consciousness, Du Bois wrote about the phenomena ‘it is a peculiar sensation this double consciousness, this sense of always looking at oneself through the eyes of others, of measuring one’s soul by the tape of a world that looks on in amused contempt and pity’ (1903, p. 5). Although written over 100 years ago, this sense of always having to doubly be aware of oneself in order to keep oneself safe is still as much a factor of life for the other now as it was then. A very recent paper on research into the experiences of Muslim women utilised this idea as a means of understanding their struggles in negotiating American spaces (Johnson, 2019).

The tricky nature of engaging with environments not of ones own is obviously not just located with the politics of race. The prevalence of hate crimes against the other means the other often has to find ways and means to negotiate the contempt and pity of said subject. This could be anything from same sex couples not holding hands in public, to women adapting their dress in male environments, to those with disabilities hiding these away. Often these adaptive behaviours are enforced upon the other so as not to draw unwanted attention and aggression, yet also on many an occasion these adaptations serve as no shield at all (Haider, 2016; Litvinova, 2018; Yeung, 2016).

This enforced doubling up of consciousness is at the very least tiring, at most it is a form of self-harm which when one does so continually can lead to all kinds of psychological, physical and spiritual distress as previously stated. Then when one is engaged within the very real struggle to self-identify, the issue of the shadow of said subject rises to the surface and the struggle begins. How dare they stand up for themselves, those uppity… (I will let you fill in the blanks, as no matter what the otherness there will be a similar type of phrase aimed at said other)…

I remember on one occasion in my therapy many years ago, saying to my therapist that I often felt I could be more myself when I was walking around the streets of Dar Es Salaam, Tanzania, than I did when I walked the streets of West London, where I was born and raised. My therapist back then asked me why that might have been, and back then I did not have an answer for her. I now know that feeling a sense of safety, that the European otherness of the black aspect of my intersectional identity was an acceptable aspect of my identity whilst I travelled through East Africa. I had no need to repress it, to don a hoodie in an attempt to hide it. I could be myself without fear of retribution. It is one of the reasons I always found returning to London post holidays so difficult, as I often felt that my journey through the customs gates at Heathrow airport not only involved the checking of my Britishness in my passport, but also returned to me the cultural straightjacket of my echoism.

So, as I write this month’s blog, I recognise that for myself the need, nay, the importance of resting in my own space, amongst my own people, or even just on my own on retreat, are some of the ways and means that I personally have to readjust back in to myself during these long months of multiple adaptations. Over these summer months I therefore wish the same for all of those who follow this page. For all of you who are The Other.



Du Bois, W. E. (1903). The Souls of Black Folk. USA: Amazon Classics.
Haider, S. (2016). The Shooting in Orlando, Terrorism or Toxic Masculinity (or Both?). Men and Masculinities, 19(5), 555–565. https://doi.org/10.1177/1097184X16664952
Johnson, A. (2019). Throwing our bodies against the white background of academia. Ethics in/of Geographical Research, 108. https://doi.org/10.1111/area.12568
Litvinova, D. (2018). LGBT hate crimes double in Russia after ban on “gay propaganda.” Retrieved September 14, 2018, from https://www.reuters.com/article/us-russia-lgbt-crime/lgbt-hate-crimes-double-in-russia-after-ban-on-gay-propaganda-idUSKBN1DL2FM
Yeung, P. (2016). Brexit: BBC journalist called a 'n****r’ as post-EU referendum race hate crime spikes. Retrieved July 15, 2016, from http://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/trish-adudu-brexit-bbc-journalist-eu-referendum-race-hate-crime-a7115476.html

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Discovering Dignity as the Other

(Published 1st June 2019)

As this is my birth-month I thought I would once more publish a more personal blog, beginning with this dream:

“I am taking part in a swimming medley relay race. I am aware that I am not the greatest swimmer, but I only have to do the first leg of my medley. I am the only competitor of colour, everyone else is white and male. The race starts, and I am in the middle of the pack as I come to the end of my leg, but then I realise my colleagues have abandoned me, and I have to keep on swimming out of a sense of dignity for myself. As I swim though, I get better and stronger, learning each new stroke in turn, and even when I see a white man in my lane, I realise I am doing quite well. The last lap is the back stroke, and I realise I am actually quite good at this stroke, turning like a professional. As I end the swimming race, I realise I have actually won.”

Although this past 12 months has held many positives professionally, it has also been an incredibly difficult year for me personally. Life changes have meant a total re-evaluation of many areas of my personal life, including those I have in the past chosen to call friends. There are always lessons to be learnt along the way though, and the above dream, from the end of March this year, when I was in the midst of a lot of drama, highlights some of the more psychological aspects of these life changes.

As the dream symbolises, one of the toughest things about Being The Other, comes with staying ones course, even whilst dealing with those who cause one problems, and the abandonment of those who are there to support. All the while whilst maintaining one’s dignity. In the unconscious denial of the same rights as every other competitor, there is an internalised privileging of the subject. Even within the dream, this reinforcing of the superiority of the subject is designed to provoke. It is as if the enemy wants the other to be riled up, to constantly fight, to react, in order to reinforce its narrow visions of just who the other is and justify their own fear of the other. It will get in the way, it will block, deny entry for those who would support the other in their desire to succeed.

Although unconscious, this pattern is fairly common in the fight for social justice. So also is the ability of the other to act with dignity when faced with superior forces when confronted with the oppressive power of the Subject. From the suffragettes chaining themselves to the gates of parliament (Beauvoir, 2010), to Martin Luther King’s marching for voting rights (Kindig, 2015), to the numerous marches Harvey Milk undertook to protest for gay rights (Van Sant, 2008), where the fight has found its grounding, and eventually succeeded most of all is when it has been delivered powerfully, consistently, but always with dignity. This is not to say there is weakness in this approach, or that the other does not fight back. Quite the contrary. Yet, the other does so by using the most powerful weapon that it has in its arsenal; dignity.

Dignity, in its root form, speaks of being able to self-identify, to recognise that one is entitled to respect (Lebech, 2004). It is the recognising that one is human, that one is not less than, that one is not inhuman, and therefore that one exists as an entity in one’s own right. Where the struggle starts though is when the fight is made to be about gaining that respect from those not willing to give it. This is a major flaw in the striving for dignity, I believe. As per the dream, dignity for those who truly have it emerges from within, and emerges out of the trials and tribulations endured. It is like a star burning brightly but in the farthest reaches of the galaxy. Even though its light might take a trillion years to reach the Earth, it will eventually, and it does not resist, or doubt this simple fact. It does not need another planet, a trillion years away, to justify its existence.

As discussed in Kant’s work ‘Human beings simply have this value (of dignity) in virtue of being human,’ (Sensen, 2009, p. 311). This is an important distinction. For the other, their humanity has often been denied by the Subject. Yet, for those of us who are other and who recognise our own civilisation, (re-)discovering one’s own dignity is one curative against the dehumanising impact of systemic internalised supremacy.

For myself, that swimming race towards individuation and decolonisation has always been a constant. A long race, often conducted upon my own, often without the support of pseudo-friends who talk a good game but are often more about getting in my way and proving themselves superior to myself than of any actual use to myself in my personal journey. For example, in my early 20s, I had the pleasure of living in Berlin, Germany for several years. During my time there, and with the help of several American colleagues that I met along the way, I found myself drawn towards writings about the Civil Rights struggles in the USA, but also in the United Kingdom. I watched the movies (X, Spike Lee’s classic movie which is rarely on screen here in the UK, was a favourite), and read numerous books about the black experience of being the other across the Global West. I revelled in being the other whilst I served abroad, which although at times difficult, and at others lonely, meant I often enjoyed the experience. That inert sense of dignity was burning dimly within even way back then.

Finally though, this religious quote touched me; ‘thus God calls on one man, one nation, to be different in order to teach all humanity the dignity of difference’ (Sacks & Rosenthal, 2003, p. 6). There is a dignity in being different, and the dignity of the different, when held with strength and humility, I believe serves to remind the Subject of the of their actions towards us, whilst returning them to a state of humility, and eventually maybe also to a state of humanity.

“Any man that tries to rob me of my dignity will lose.” Nelson Mandela.


Beauvoir, S. de. (2010). The Second Sex. New york: Alfred A. Knopf.
Kindig, J. (2015). Selma, alabana, (Bloody Sunday, March 7, 1965). Retrieved May 2, 2015, from http://www.blackpast.org/aah/bloody-sunday-selma-alabama-march-7-1965
Lebech, M. (2004). What is Human Dignity ? Maynooth Philosophical Papers, (2), 59–69. Retrieved from http://eprints3.nuim.ie/392/1/Human_Dignity.pdf
Sacks, R. J., & Rosenthal, J. H. (2003). The Dignity of Difference : How to Avoid the Clash of Civilizations. Carnegie Council, 1–12.
Sensen, O. (2009). Kant’s Conception of Human Dignity. Kant - Studien: Philosophische Zeitschrift, 100(3), 309.
Van Sant, G. (2008). Milk (p. 1). USA: Focus Features. Retrieved from http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1013753/companycredits?ref_=ttfc_ql_5

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New YouTube Channel: Being The Other

Being The Other (press the name to be taken through to YouTube) is a channel by the Other, for the Other. Based upon my own doctoral studies, this channel seeks to challenge some of the narrow stereotypes around the experience of being the other, offering a newly developing perspective on experiences as the other.

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Previous Blogs

Blog entries from Oct 14 to May 15:

Oct 2014: The Other PT1: Kristeva, Power and the Other
Nov 2014: The Other PT2: When Echo needs to speak up!
Jan 2015: The Other PT3: The problem with the assimilation of the Other
Mar 2015: The Other PT4: Outsider, the Genius
May 2015: The Other PT 6: Encounters with the Other within the global marketplace
Feb 2015: ICON: The black superhero in the Superhero Age

Blog. 6 month blog entries Apr 14 to Sept 14

Blog entries from April 14 to Sept 14:

April 2014: Sozinho - the quest for intimacy
June 2014: Copa de Monde Brazil: An Afrocentric perspective
May 2014: Cosmospirituality - (Part One)
July 2014: Afro-Spirituality explored (Part Two)
Sept 2014: A post-colonial exploration of our Afrocentric identity (Part Three)

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